Therapy Vs Hairstlying

Clients like to have their hair cut by somebody they are comfortable with– they like their look, their energy, and the way they style hair. And, sometimes clients want therapy versus hairstyling. Some stylists take it on. There is a fuzzy line between the two. On one hand, I want my client to feel on top of the world when they leave, or at least liking the way their hair looks. And yes, some I propped up more than others. Sometimes I need to give a bit more shoring to have a client a positive note to leave on. Is this called therapy? Do I really want that role?

I used to work next to this hairdresser, a very good friend of mine at the time, who never hesitated to ask really personal questions, and he played out the role of psychologist, even though he was one of the most neurotic people I know. “So how are you two really doing? Are you having sex yet?” My skin would crawl, it felt unprofessional. And yet, he was booked solid. He was known to be over-the-top sensitive, and a great listener, and he really did care. And, yet he would get right in your business. He attracted clients who liked that.

He gave, and gave, and gave. He booked himself tight, haircut after haircut. Lunch went down in five minutes, usually the fattiest, saltiest of foods, with a Coke. He oozed charisma, and he was a talented hairdresser. He worked like this for at least 20 years. I respected Joel in many ways and he would do just about anything for me. In fact, he helped me build my hairstyling career. He dragged me out of managing a fruit stand, I quit my hairdressing job, and didn’t know if I wanted to continue, although I cut hair in my apartment. He said, “What are you doing? You’re a hairdresser. Come open the salon with me.”

In watching him, a feeling would surface every once in a while, “When is the other shoe going to drop?” Then it did. After years of this incredible pace, he vanished from the business. He just couldn’t do it anymore. Clients who had appointments, didn’t get a call. Clients of eighteen years wondered why. Done.

Watching my friend give and give and give as a hairstylist, then burn out, was painful. Did he need to give so much to his clients that he had nothing left of himself? Seeing how he left the business created confusion for me as a friend, and as a stylist. Maybe it’s the only way he knew how. Maybe the intensity is what his clients expected of him. As a budding hairstylist, I could see the position required building relationships, sustaining them, not to mention having great technical skills, but did it mean I had to give up myself as an offering? I felt uncomfortable with how much he gave, and yet I believed that must be what it takes to be successful in this business.

I too, gave beyond what was necessary, but in a different way. My boundaries were soft around the edges. I’d let clients take advantage of me, I’d stress about being good enough. Would their hair be okay? Would they be okay with their hair? I took it home with me, and compared myself to Joel. I never measured up when I did compare our different ways of approaching our clients. I never wanted to ask personal questions though, I was too scared, afraid of offending them. If they wanted a more personal relationship with me, I waited for their cue. I would even sometimes use my clientele to shore myself up. I use to go out a lot with my clients. Then some where along the way, that all changed.

It started with studying with Rusk. I became an educator with them and it changed everything about how I saw hair. I took my career more seriously– I quit leaning on my clients for support. My job became about giving to them in a professional way,and keeping the personal talk down to a minimum. Now I don’t have a personal relationship with 99% of my clients outside the salon. I awakened to the fact their appointment time should be about them, and it is about hair, and I need to be talking about there hair, not their personal lives.

I listen to my clients now, and I follow their lead, always keeping in mind my job is hairstyling. Therapist versus hairstylist? No, contest. I much prefer my job as a stylist. Down deep, clients want to be waited on, taken care of, and walk out loving their hair.

Hair Stylist Tips For Beautiful Locks

Luscious and damage free tresses deliver a beautiful appeal and prove easy to maintain, but achieving the desired look at home is not that simple. Professional salons utilize various products and techniques to produce a glamorous look to leave you with soft, smooth and silky results. Hair stylist tips can help you receive quality solutions and improve the condition of those locks.

Stylists are experienced and knowledgeable in transforming tresses from dull, frizzy and poorly textured to sleek and manageable. Repeated highlights, coloring, and heat applications can cause severe damage to your hair making it brittle, weak and lack shine. The use of the right products and techniques can assist in enhancing the condition of locks making it easier to style and strengthening strands against further deterioration.

To improve shine, dryness and manageability, locks need to be deeply conditioned with protein based products. Investing in one good range and using it sparingly can save on the costs and ensure that you receive the correct standard of care. It will assist in maintaining tresses in preparation for a nourishing keratin treatment or deluxe therapy.

Apply conditioner to your tresses after every shampoo and comb all the tangles and knots out before a rinse. Avoid using a fine toothed comb particularly on thick and longer locks as it can cause breakage and flyaways. A broad and flat brush with gentle stroking motions will spread all of the conditioner and protect against unnecessary damages.

To grow your hair, have it trimmed on a regular basis. It may seem counter-intuitive to cut from the length when you wish for longer growth; however, it will preserve a healthy condition. Significant time lapses between trims will have a stylist remove more of the split ends and damage rather than smaller snips to keep the desired length.

A good cut should last longer than 6 weeks providing a manageable result. One should be able to maintain length and density between trims. For optimum growth, protect your locks with deep-conditioning products including heat protectors and gentle brushing to remove tangled ends.

A licensed hair dresser can advise on treatments, cuts, and colors that best complement face shape, texture, and prove easiest to manage. Always inform a stylist of what you do not like or want in a trim or the application of a new shade to avoid unexpected or disappointing results. It is important to trust the salon you are attending, to ensure quality care and sound professional advice.

5 Reasons Why 2013 Is an Incredible Year for High Fashion Hair Style

Anyone who has spent time flipping through fashion magazines or had the opportunity to attend some of the top fashion shows in New York and Europe has noticed that hair styles seem to be getting as much attention as the clothing. Five styles really stand out.

Keep it Short

The days when women needed to have flowing locks in order to be considered feminine and sexy have passed by. Really short, pixie style haircuts for women have made a comeback. In addition to making eyes look larger, necks more graceful, and cheekbones appear even higher. The great thing about pixie cuts being trendy is the amount of care they require. All it takes to keep these cuts looking great will be a bit of gel and some finger combing. The only women who can’t rock a pixie style haircut will be the ones with round or long faces.

Tied Up in a Knot

It looks like 2013 will be the year of the knot. More and more women on the fashion runways have taken to pulling their hair back from their face and securing it into a tight knot or bun. It’s a dramatic look that draws attention to the eyes, jawline, and neck. The trick to creating the perfect knot will be using a fine-toothed comb to pull the hair from the face, securing the knot tightly, and using a liberal amount of ultra-hold hair spray. Once a technique for creating the knot has been perfected, women can dress up the look with a bedazzled comb, decorative bobby pins, or even a short, flowing scarf.

Make Some Waves

Every girl and woman has spent time cursing the heat and humidity that causes their hair to frizz. Luckily, 2013 has brought about the perfect solution… waves. All it takes to get the tresses back under control will be a curling iron with a large barrel which can be used to quickly add some wave and bounce to the ends of long hair. After curling the ends into loose waves and adding a quick spritz of flexible hair spray, the style will perfectly mirror the casual look seen in the beach wear section of fashion magazines.

The Side Braid

Celebrities with long hair have fallen in love with side braids. The style keeps hair calm during breezy red carpet appearances, can be achieved quickly, looks great with all face shapes, and creates a romantic appearance. Simply pull the hair over one shoulder, divide it into three sections, and twist it into a loose braid. A curling iron can be used to add some bounce to the end of the braid. Women who are prone to flyways will want to lightly use a flexible hairspray to keep the wisps under control.

Go a Little Retro

Just because a girl has long hair, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t occasionally want to try something a little different. By taking the ends of her hair and pinning them up close to her skull, she can create a faux bob that both accents her jaw line and draws attention to her mouth. The faux bob looks like a less severe version of the bob that women in ’20s favored. Many celebrities have gone a little retro and selected the faux bob for red carpet events and award shows.

The great thing about all five styles is that the flatter most facial shapes and can be achieved without having to make a trip to the nearest salon. Each of these styles will work for a day at the office, or when out on a hot date. For more information on Salon Invi please visit: